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When Holiday Cheer Doesn’t Come Easily

 


The holiday season is often described as joyful, magical, and full of cheer. Everywhere you look, there are bright lights, festive music, and messages telling us this is the most wonderful time of the year. But for many people, including me, that isn’t always the full picture.

For me, the holidays can feel… off.

I don’t have a lot of warm, cozy childhood memories tied to this season. I miss people I’ve lost. Some years, it feels like I’m simply going through the motions: showing up, smiling when I should, and checking the boxes of what the season is supposed to look like. And that can bring a quiet heaviness that’s hard to explain.

If this resonates with you, I want you to know something important: you’re not alone.

When the Holidays Feel Heavy

Many people struggle during the holidays, even if it doesn’t look that way from the outside. Grief, family changes, financial stress, health concerns, or past experiences can all surface more strongly this time of year. The pressure to feel happy can sometimes make it even harder.

Feeling disconnected, sad, or emotionally tired during the holidays doesn’t mean there’s something wrong with you. It means you’re human. It doesn't make you a Grinch. 😉

Permission to Do the Holidays Differently

One of the most helpful things my therapist has shared with me is this: we are allowed to enjoy and celebrate any part of the holiday season that resonates with us and brings a genuine feel-good feeling.

That might mean:

  • Enjoying certain traditions while letting go of others

  • Spending time with chosen family instead of following expectations

  • Finding joy in small moments rather than big celebrations

  • Creating new traditions that better fit where you are in life right now

There is no rulebook that says you have to love every part of the season. But there also isn't a rule that says you can't love some parts.

Finding Moments of Connection

Even though the holidays aren’t always easy for me, I still want to enjoy meaningful moments with friends, family, and our community. Sometimes that joy shows up in unexpected ways, like a warm conversation, shared laughter, or simply being together without pressure.

That’s one of the reasons we are excited to be hosting our patient appreciation open house this year! It’s a simple, relaxed way to connect, share some treats, enjoy a little music, and celebrate together - no expectations, no perfection required. Just people coming together...for a little Country Christmas.

We haven't had an event like this in about a decade. Read THIS BLOG POST for a little more perspective on why we want to make every day more authentic and fun.

If You’re Feeling “Off,” Be Gentle With Yourself

If you’re moving through this season feeling out of sync, I hope you’ll offer yourself compassion. Celebrate what feels right. Rest when you need to. Say no when you have to. And say yes to the moments that truly nourish you.

The holidays don’t have to look a certain way to be meaningful.

If this season feels complicated for you, know that you’re seen, you’re understood, and you’re not alone. And if you find even one small thing that brings you comfort or joy, that’s enough.

If this post resinated with you, make sure you check back in January, when a few blog posts will focus on mental health.

Wishing you gentleness, connection, and moments of peace this season!

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